Question of the Month
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Every time I approach an attractive
women I freeze up. How do I move past that and start a
conversation?
--- Jim H. Dallas, TX
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Hey Jim,
One of the most common struggles for guys is 'freezing up' after
you approach a woman.
What is it that's making you freeze up in the first place? Are you
afraid that what you're going to say isn't going to sound right...or
that you'll look like a fool? You have to get past those
assumptions, if you're ever going to get past the 'freezing up'
stage. You have to be comfortable in your ability to communicate.
Ask yourself this...do you freeze up when you approach a guy you
don't know? Odds are, you don't. You don't look at him as a threat
to your manhood or consider his willingness (or disinterest) in
carrying on a conversation with you as some kind of measure of who
you are. Don't give this strange woman that power over you. Don't
put so much weight in her response. If she wants to talk, great!
If she doesn't, great! You're no worse off for having tried to open
up the lines of communication. This is not a conquest, it's a few
introductory words.
Here are some things you can do to help you feel more confident in
your approach:
1. Think in advance about what you're going to say based on the
situation you're presented with. Let's say you're at any gathering.
You must first observe what she is doing. If she's intently watching
a football game and you're comfortable talking about football, talk
about it. Never attempt to speak intelligently about something you
know absolutely nothing about. You will fail and look foolish. If
she's reading a book, try to determine what book it is before you
approach. If you have read the book, or know the author, you will be
much more comfortable and less likely to freeze up.
2. Practice your greeting. Everywhere you go there are people.
Practice your introduction. Every time, and I mean
every time
- I go to the grocery store, I engage the
person in front of and behind me in the checkout line. I don't care
if they are attractive or not, I don't care if they are 25 or 75.
Everyone can talk about the price of food, the cover of People
Magazine, how many kids your feeding, or any other item in that
line. The challenge is to introduce yourself and smile. Here's an
example: Make eye contact. "Do you think Brad Pitt owns shares in
People Magazine?" She will smile 99% of the time. You follow it with
your smile. "By the way, My name's Bob."
Be informed. Practice. In no time you'll be over the 'freezing up'
stage, and on to meeting new people and having a great time.
Coach Bob
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